Exactly! My ex wanted out after 20 years but then stalled on filing for divorce. He moved into the guest room. I continued cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, and working full time. He stayed home, isolated, didn’t look for a job, which meant he couldn’t move out. After two years of that dysfunctional arrangement, I got tired of living in limbo and I filed for divorce. He was shocked. It turned out to be the best for both of us and we are on good terms today. But I hate it when I read that women file more often. As you said, we file because men don’t.